The primary paradigm of [time management] is one of control—plan it, schedule it, manage it. Take it a step at a time. Don’t let anything fall through the cracks. Most of us feel it would be great to be “in control” of our lives. But the fact is, we’re not in control; principles are. We can control our choices, but we cannot control the consequences of those choices. When we pick up one end of the stick, we pick up the other. To think we’re in control is an illusion. It puts us in the position of trying to manage consequences. In addition, we can’t control other people. And because the basic paradigm is one of control, time management essentially ignores the reality that most of our time is spent living and working with other people who cannot be controlled.