Tag: Counseling (home)

I am quite convinced that I have deep-seated psychological problems; however, they are what make me who I am. Since I am opposed to suicide on moral grounds, I shall not seek counseling.

permalink source: Glen, 1996
tags: Cynicism, Counseling

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

permalink source: William James
tags: Relationships, Counseling

"On Prozac, Sisyphus might well push the boulder back up the mountain with more enthusiasm and more creativity. I do not want to deny the benefits of psychoactive medication. I just want to point out that Sisyphus is not a patient with a mental health problem. To see him as a patient with a mental health problem is to ignore certain larger aspects of his predicament connected to boulders, mountains, and eternity. " - Carl Elliot, The Pursuit of Happiness, Atlantic Online 8/5/2003

permalink source: Atlantic Monthly http://www.theatlantic.com/unbound/interviews/int2003-08-05.htm
tags: Happiness, Psychology, Counseling

He is bad that will not take advice, but he is a thousand times worse who takes every advice.

permalink source: Irish Proverb
tags: Folly, Learning, Wisdom, Counseling

[In a study students were asked to explain why their relationship was the way it was...] When students who had been asked to analyze their relationships were compared to students not asked to do so, the researches found that unanalyzed attitudes about the relationship were a better predictor of whether the relationship would still be intact months later than analyzed attitudes. Those who were asked to supply reasons and expressed positive feelings about their relationship were not necessarily still in the relationship six months later. As in the poster study, being asked to give reasons can make unimportant considerations salient temporarily and produce a less, not a more, accurate assesment of how peope really feel.

permalink source: The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Barry Schwartz, 140
tags: Counseling, Romantic Love

We Best See Ourselves Through The Eyes of Others

And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. –1 Thessalonians 5:14 This is one of my favorite passages. It helps us see there are people in our midst who are idle, some who are fainthearted and others who are weak. A wise minister/counselor will use a different tool for each person. .... When someone is set in their ways and living in active rebellion you don’t coddle them with a message of grace and Jesus loves you. You admonish them. But at the same time you don’t admonish the faint-hearted. As one person has said, “Wisdom dictated that they should not ‘warn the weak’ nor ‘encourage the idle’”. Instead we are to “encourage the faint-hearted”. ... We don’t see things correctly. The idle often think they’re weak. The faint-hearted rebuke themselves for idleness. We need another set of loving eyes to come alongside us and properly apply the gospel. And for that you need a local church. And for that to actually “work” and matter and do what it’s supposed to do—you need to pursue being known and to know others.

permalink source: WHY YOUR ONLINE “CHURCH” ISN’T ENOUGH, DECEMBER 17, 2018, MIKE LEAKE, http://www.mikeleake.net/2018/12/why-your-online-church-isnt-enough.html
tags: Church, Wisdom, Counseling, Community, Self-awareness