To say "I was hurt by the church and just can't consider it any longer" is as silly as someone saying ""I had my heart broken as a teenager and just can't consider relationships anymore." Of course you had your heart broken as a teenager. But the problem was not with romance itself, but with your context and habits. Mature people do not give up on the goal, but learn to pursue it differently. Likewise with the church. Pursue the goal of Christian community, but do it in a different way.